A few weeks ago, I logged into my sons Instagram and scrolled through his feed. I do that quite frequently because of an agreement that he and I have regarding our pursuit of purity. It is our way of adding a measure of real life accountability to our use of social media. It is a great idea for a teenager – and for an adult as well! In a culture of immorality and pornography, all of us need accountability and all of us have to continually be on guard to maintain a life that is clean and godly. As I scrolled through his account, I was caught off guard by a photo of a girl dressed very immodestly and I deleted her from his account. I later asked him about it and he said, very sincerely, “Dad, I don’t follow bikini models! I don’t know who she was, but all of the girls I follow are church girls.”
I also have unfollowed some ladies because of photos they have posted of themselves – photos that made me uncomfortable and that I would not have wanted someone seeing on my phone or computer. My wife and I have been surprised more than a few times by how comfortable some are with posting “revealing” and “somewhat risqué” photos. I am very aware that the culture around us would likely not care very much at all. My challenge is this: shouldn’t we as believers care? Shouldn’t we embrace modesty, wisdom, and discretion. I believe we should.
Think of it like this. Would you want your brother, son, husband, or dad to follow bikini models, subscribe to their magazines, and hang posters of them in their office, bedroom, or workshop? Would you want them to do the same with ladies dressed provocatively or revealingly? I hope your answer is a resounding NO! Wouldn’t wisdom then say that one should not post photos of themselves dressed in such a way? Wouldn’t discretion call for wiser actions? Wouldn’t modesty suggest more discernment? I personally think it would!
Dear friends: please don’t be offended, but can I gently suggest that we can do better. God’s Word teaches that believing ladies should dress modestly, shamefacedly, and with sobriety. Modest simply means “orderly” and implies that it is wise to dress well and to look beautiful. Shamefaced actually means “modest” and implies that we should never lose our ability to “blush” at that which is revealing and provocative. Sobreity implies that believers must continually think through what they permit and what they embrace in the area of dress. In 1 Timothy 2, where these truths are found, Paul challenges ladies to use their dress to promote godliness, good works, and the gospel! It is really an awesome chapter and I have enjoyed learning from it. I would recommend you examine it as well.
Just a few weeks ago, I heard a young man mention that he sometimes feels awkward at church – awkward at how our generation is willing to dress to even serve on church platforms. Sadly enough, I find myself agreeing with him. I don’t want to have a critical spirit and I don’t want to be unkind at all, but I am always saddened when I have to guard my eyes while participating in a church worship service. I know that I am not alone!
Can we do better? I believe so. I also believe we should. Beauty is part of God’s creation and should be admired and embraced. So dress beautifully. Femininity is also part of God’s creation, so be beautifully feminine. Modesty is part of God’s command for promoting the gospel, for protecting our hearts, and for separating ourselves from the ungodly culture around us. So be beautiful and feminine and modest. All three matter . . . .
Thanks for reading.
Am I wrong? Does it no longer matter in our culture? I would love to hear from you.
Your sincere friend,